Saturday, May 31, 2008
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Sunday, May 18, 2008
Friday, May 16, 2008
We give the honor and glory to the "ONE" that ordained marriage. In our marriage vows the words were :
Wilt thou have this woman to be thy wedded wife, to live together after God's ordinance in the holy estate of matrimony? Wilt thou love her, comfort her, honor her and keep her, in sickness and in health: and forsaking all others , keep thee only unto her as long as ye both shall live? Then, of course the wife promises to love, honor, obey etc. Marriage is 100% on both sides. I have always heard 50-50 but which 50 was always my question!
Here are a few things we found important in our marriaage.
First of all, seek God's will for the "right" companion. Remember - it is for life!
Keep yourselves pure!
We did not have instructions on dating and marriage - but I can tell you The Blessed Holy Spirit will lead you and show you (just like He did us) that there are certain things you do not do before marriage. The only advise I remember getting was from a pastor's wife. She said: Even though you trust each other, you cannot trust the devil. I have forever been thankful for that little tidbit of advise. It kept us both where we should be with each other and with the Lord.
Then, after marriage set up a family altar. Marriage does take three. The Lord and the couple that gets married. Prayer is so essential to a marriage. How many times over the past fifty years have we had to call on Him? He was always there to help.
Then the woman should know her place in marriage. Ephesians 5:21-24 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything."
Yes, the husband is the head of the home. He is the King of the castle so to speak. But I'm his queen! (I'm sure he will like being called a king.) Well, King Silas and I worked together. We usually discussed major issues together- but he made the final decision. Sometimes it was not what I would have chosen, but most of the time he was right. I did not have the wisdom to see what he may have seen.
His decision when we got married was that he was to go out and make the living and I would be the keeper of the home. Had things ever gotten bad, then he would re-consider. But through the years I have never had to work outside the home. It was because Silas was willing to work two jobs. Did we have everything we wanted? No! But we have always had everything we needed.
Don't put a whole lot on material things.
We never put a whole lot on material things. We were married quite a few years before we had a matching dining room set, bedroom set or living room set. Would you believe we got our first new sofa in the year 2000? We were just as happy as the rich family in the city. One day, years ago - I made the remark that I would like a little Acadian Home in the country on a couple acres of ground. My oldest daughter, Rhonda, said "Go ahead and get it Mom and then lay awake nights wondering how you are going to pay for it." Can I tell you that the Lord worked it out for us (later)to be in the country on an acre of land with what we call a nice home and the best part is, we are debt free. The Lord does give us our wants sometimes. (Seems I'm straying from what I was writing about which I am very good at.)
Another thing we learned is: Don't use credit cards unless it is absolutely necessary. We found out early on that if we could not pay for it - we did not get it You don't need everything you see just to keep up with whoever.
Then- keep the line of communication open. Talk about whatever may be the problem. Sure, we all have problems that arise in a marriage, but pouting and giving the silent treatment is not the answer. Another thing is: Don't air your problems in front of your children. Our children have never seen their Dad lay a hand on me. We have never had a fight. Sure, we disagreed on a lot of things. But it never led to a hollering match or fight. When our children say their parents never had a fight - it's hard for most people to believe. We give God the credit for this. Someone was visiting my husband awhile back and I don't know what brought about the remark. But whatever they were talking about - he looked at me and said "I guess you will be sleeping on the sofa tonight." Teasingly Silas said he was not leaving his bed. I looked at his friend and said "I have never slept on the sofa and don't plan to." Of course it was all in fun!
I guess I could add a lot more to this but it is almost time for me to start lunch. I will write tomorrow about how Our 50th celebration came out.
Friday, May 9, 2008
Friday, May 2, 2008
Thursday, May 1, 2008
As my husband and I were reading The Bible together this morning I thought - how very important it is to start the day out in The Word. How many times would I have lost my way had it not been for scripture that I memorized as a young Christian. 1Peter2:2 "Desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby."
I found this old story that I had saved and thought how true! We, as Christian's, will lose our way in this confused, troubled world without our road map, the BIBLE. The Psalmist said it is a lamp unto our feet and a light to our path.
DONT FORGET YOUR LANTERN
"It will be quite dark before you return, Charley, don't forget your lantern," said a mother to her son, who was going to spend his half holiday at a farm about two miles distant.
"I'm not afraid of the dark and I know my way well enough," he muttered. "No, I shan't take the stupid old lantern; it will only be in the way."
Off he went and spent a merry afternoon with his companions, never thinking of his mother's words or troubling about his journey home. It was quite dark when he said goodbye to his friends at the farm, and as there was no moon, the night was very dark, so they kindly offered to lend him a lantern. But he was too proud to accept it after boasting to his mother that he knew his way so well, and he declared loudly than ever that he knew his way blindfolded, and would be halfway home before the lantern was lighted.
He ran down the path, along the road and across the field. In the corner of the field was a broken stile which had to be crossed in order to enter the road. Part of the stile had rotted away, but the long nail which had fastened it still remained. Catching Charley's jacket as he climbed the stile, it tripped him and threw him suddenly into a bed of stinging nettles in the dry ditch beyond.
Bruised and smarting and mortified, he crept out of the ditch and began to make his way through the woods. There were several paths. But the widest and most frequented was his nearest way.
Perhaps it was the pain he was suffering or the annoyance he felt which caused him to forget to take the turning on the right. After walking a short distance he found the bushes were close to him on either side, and he felt sure that he had strayed into one of the narrow pathways which crossed the wood in every direction. How he longed for his lantern! He had no idea which way to go, but wandered on and on until he grew tired and footsore.
At last he came to a more open space and thinking he had reached the road, he pressed boldly on. But he found the ground gave way beneath and in another moment he was struggling in the water. There was a large pool in the midst of the wood and into this he had fallen. Happily it was not very deep and groping about for something to which he could cling he seized hold of a tough bough and by its aid managed to scramble out of the water into the pathway.
Some minutes later, bruised and bleeding, with clothes torn and stained with mud and weeds and soaked with water,, he reached the gate of his own home where all the family were assembled, wondering what had become of him.
"Mother," said the miserable pentitent boy, "Iv'e been foolish; but I will never go without the lantern again."
Four years passed and Charley, now a fine, tall lad, stood again by the gate saying farewell to his mother, not for a few hours but for months - perhaps years.
"Don't forget your lantern, my boy," she said as she placed into his hands a small Bible."Let God's Word be a lamp to your feet and a light to your path.'Whenever you are in doubt as to the way you should take let the light of this Book shine upon your path and the way will be plain."